Tololy's Box

Well, I had some good and bad experiences in online relationships. <br /><br />I think they are very similar to real relationships although they lack the face to face or physical interaction. Sometimes you feel like talking to someone online is liberating and more comfortable because you will not be judged by the way you look or dress … etc. you get to be yourself and discuss things you might not do if you were sitting face to face with that friend<br /><br />Also, you don’t have to dress up to meet a cyberpal; you can do it from the comfort of your home and you can spend hours talking about everything.<br /><br />The disadvantage is the lack of physical interaction … you might not get along with your cyberpals as much if you meet them for real … so if this is always a second step after meeting online, you can say that you are on the right track .. but unless the relationship is so casual or so long distance, keeping it in cyberspace will not humanly satisfying as the real ones<br /><br />Nice topic Tololy and very relevant to our current relationships <br />

I sure like the people I have met! It has been especially fun to meet ladies like Tololy and Khalidah to round out the experience of cyberpals. <br /><br />

I think that cyber-friendships are great. They give you an opportunity to "meet" people you might not have a chance to cross paths with in real life. And Khalidah is right – these relationships allow you to bypass the more superficial physical outer layers and head straight for what’s on the inside. As a secular&nbsp; Jewish American-Israeli, what chance would I have had to "meet" you, a religious Muslim Circassian-Jordanian, in real life (not to mention our age difference which I think is more or less about 15 years or so)? I’d say close to zero. The blogosphere allowed our paths to cross, and as long as we are open to it and respectful of each other’s differences, it’s terrific. What could be better than getting to know people of different backgrounds and breaking down barriers bit by bit? It makes the world a much more interesting place. We’re not going to solve any global (or regional) problems this way, but we are doing a great thing.<br /><br />Also, not all cyber-friends remain as cyber-friends. Sure, it starts out that way, but if you connect with someone online, if it is possible, taking it to the next step seems natural. I’ve met up with a few of my fellow bloggers here, and it’s been great fun. Given the hectic pace of today’s world, it’s not always easy to meet new people. Cyberspace can help by providing tools that make it easier to do so.<br />

She made a good point about age or cultural differences which would be obstacle to f2f friendships are not an issue in cyberspace. Often these are unconscious, but powerful obstacles to relationships.

BTW Kinzi, when are you getting a blog?

<p>I think it depends onthe person… For me, as a shy and discreet person, it’s great! I can be more open with cyber friends… and some of them became of my best friends!</p>

Peter S. – thanks for thinking of me! If I can break my internet addiction this summer to the point I can get all my housework done, paid writing done and be pleasant to my family, maybe this fall!<br />

<p>i don’t know about advantages and disadvantages, i’ll talk abit about (good/bad).</p>
<p>lets&nbsp;agree that everything’s perfection&nbsp;is governed by certain criteria and rules. for example, if we have a rule that states that movies should be entertaining, so a movie is good if it entertains and bad if it doesn’t. same goes for cyber relationships. it really depends on what do you want from the relationship, or what rules you have set for it.</p>
<p>if you want a face to face contact for all your relationships including Cyber ones, then it would be Bad and would fail because it doesn’t meet a gaol, but if all you want from a relationship, is someone to help you when your down and get advices from, or someone to send you funny pics and clips then your relationships would be "Good" and succeed.</p>
<p>it really depends on you and what you want from it.</p>