One of the most entertaining gigs about cyberspace and the blogosphere is the way you can study people without ever meeting them. You learn a lot that way, maybe not everything, but a lot.
For instance, I log on to chat with strangers and somehow there’s this one person who’s got wits and who throws in some intelligent remarks. It proves to be fun to word play with this fellow then at one curve of the conversation: “Are you veiled for real? How come your English is so good then?”.
How is what I put on my hair related in any way whatsoever to my linguistic abilities? Maybe they expect me to tie my English-speaking tongue to the veil (A self-professed Arab liberal’s fantasy).
Then the conversation shifts in a way as the stranger tries to fathom how in good heaven’s name I can be a girl, veiled, open-minded, and speak English all in the same package. I used to want to understand how so many people make the false connection (or disconnection) between said elements, then I realized it is just the way they think. Crooked.
This Veil versus English and Veil versus Thinking stereotype is absurd and is ironically promoted by the self same people who announce all the time, whenever they get a chance, that they are against stereotypes and are liberal. It seems to me they don’t understand what being liberal is all about, and I find it glaringly obvious to everyone else how shamefully blind they are.
I was once looking for a place to sit down and read by the U of J’s Languages Centre. I went to the spot where I always “hang out” and I found this girl and guy talking just beside it. I wasn’t really bothered by that as I had an exam I needed to study for. The couple seemed your pick of hip, stylish, and modern youth, and they were talking in English. As I approached I heard the girl say “It’s OK, she’s veiled so she won’t understand us“.
And I speak five languages, Ms.Shallow. (My French is kept in check)
Now the Languages Centre at the U of J has this reputation of being the ultimate hangout for the liberal lot (how stereotypical!) but what’s so hilariously pathetic about the affair is that most of those who sport the image are absolutely clueless as to what it means to be liberal and they do some serious damage to it.
Then of course you have the good old blogs where polarization is the fashion in all seasons. You find the awkwardly and excessively religious maniacs (Who oppose girls being online for example and call for a mass massacre of the infidels in the Land of Electronica), and the foolishly and seemingly-liberal (Who unleash their hounds on you should you object to their views and would brand you a backward religious cave man/woman in a second while still maintaining they’re liberal).
The way I see it, it is this black – white distinction that is harming us all. It’s this “I am right, you are wrong” attitude that prevents so-called liberals from accepting veiled and yet open-minded and educated girls, and their opposites from accepting the same specimen. It’s almost like Russia and the US back in the day. I am right, you are wrong – end of discussion and let the world burn.
When I meet people who say they hate the veil, I ask them why they hate it. They often answer on behalf of someone else using stories of girls forced to wear it and stories of girls who are shallow and oppressed for wearing it.
When I meet people who say a woman must wear a black tent from head to toe, I ask them why she should. They often answer on behalf of someone else using stories of girls who were raped and lured into sin and stories of catastrophe to come if women don’t wear tents.
Do you see anything missing in the equation?
I am a veiled girl and they do not speak for me. It is me they are telling stories about and it is me they are fighting over.
Now stop it, take your tags off my back and fight over someone you “own”. I can speak English and I can speak for myself.

















