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Say, What’s Your Name?: Blogging Under a Nickname

In Metablog on February 25, 2007 at 8:20 pm

I get asked about my name quite often by people who read my blog. I have always been asked about my name online, but increasingly so ever since Tololy’s Box was born. Tololy is not the name that is written down in my birth certificate and other official documents, you see.

I also remember that when Tololy’s Box was born, many people asked me why I chose to blog under this name and not under my official one. At that time, the heated debate on anonymous bloggers was popular in the Jordanian blogosphere, and I remember posting some comments on people’s posts which considered blogging anonymously as a form of “cowardice.”

Generally speaking, I am never in favor of extremes in judgment. In ways, anonymous blogging is beneficial to the people who choose it. In other ways, it is not so. The same goes for blogging under one’s real name, it has its pros and cons. To judge someone as cowardly simply because this person did not reveal their overestimated “real name” is simply ridiculous – in fact, anonymous blogging may be a necessity.

This brings us to the core of this post, I really am not anonymous. The guise people imagine that I wear by blogging under the name Tololy (family name: Tutunai) is extremely relative. I have met several of my readers, a number of fellow bloggers, and a group of employers through this blog. I even have a profile picture and another full-figure picture in The Visuals. Let’s say I reveal my real identity when I deem it fit.

But before bothering to criticize anonymous blogging, answer me this: what does a “real name” mean, really? Is it the name that your parents call you when you are born, or is it a name that you call yourself and have people call you and that, after time, becomes more real that the one scribbled in your passport? The flexibility of naming one’s self is simply too powerful to be ignored. Very few people call me anything but Tololy. Even my two-year old nephew calls me Toly (his version of the name).

Recently, I have been having an urge to unveil my “real name.” I am still thinking of the matter, but I must say I think it is a temporary whim and no more. I guess I need some changes around The Box and that then the temptation will be gone, as if they ever do.

Tag: Five Things You Do Not Know About Me

In Bits & pieces on February 24, 2007 at 3:39 pm

So Faisal tagged me the other day and the game is about sharing five things that you previously did not know about me. Alrighty:

1- I am experimental/open-minded to a disturbing degree.
2- I was an introvert as a child. Never spoke unless spoken to, thought people shallow and generally kept to myself.
3- I wrote my will four years ago.
4- Every time I get in the car, alone or with someone, I have a haunting feeling that I will get killed during that drive. One time the feeling was so strong that I saved an SMS on my phone so that when people find my cell phone with my dead body they would know that I already “knew” I was going to die.
5- I was a dancer in another life.

Now I pass the torch to Liza of Something Something, Pete of 21st Century Shea, Umar Lee of Jihad of Umar, Alb Sayed, Dusty of Dusty’s Thinking, Vincent of Pale Fire, Amino of Chronicles of a Utopian Writer, Saleh Ismaeili of Dot1ne, Noam Chomsky (a girl can dream…), Howard Zinn (and dream she does…), Abu Sinan, Sunni Sisters, Kevin Howarth of Narcissistic Graffitti and Hamzeh Nassif of The Scatter Load.

Gmail Theater: Why Use Gmail?

In Metablog on February 23, 2007 at 5:02 pm

Egypt blogger jailed for ‘insult’

In Opinion on February 22, 2007 at 2:55 pm

Egypt blogger jailed for ‘insult’

An Egyptian court has sentenced an internet blogger to four years’ prison for insulting Islam and the president.
Abdel Kareem Nabil’s trial was the first time that a blogger had been prosecuted in Egypt.

He had used his weblog to criticise the country’s top Islamic institution, the al-Azhar university and President Hosni Mubarak, whom he called a dictator.

A human rights group called the verdict “very tough” and a “strong message” to Egypt’s many thousands of bloggers.

Most disturbing news, but they are to be expected. I believe news of the sort, “crackdowns on bloggers,” will grow in number during the next two years. I joke sometimes to Yoda, before posting something even remotely daring, that he should pray I do not go to prison for it.

Judging by the look of things, I just might. One day.

Office Youth

In Life on February 20, 2007 at 4:33 pm

As I was lost in thought today in the office, for my headache was somewhat severe, I realized that I am the youngest person around. Do not mistake my colleagues for being old, they are mostly young people. I just happen to be the youngest.

To divert my attention from my throbbing head, I gave the matter more thought. It was then that I realized that I have always been the youngest person in every work environment that employed me. I also remembered always being mistaken for being older than I really am, it must be another common spelling mistake.

Fascinating, isn’t it? At least I think it is. Truly fascinating – but fascinating things are short-lived. In the near future there will be younger people around, with their inexplicable jargon and fresh perspectives on life and ethics – oh how the same they all are!

Hah!

Pictures from Hussein Park – Amman

In Picturesque on February 18, 2007 at 8:13 pm

The following are pictures I snapped during my somewhat revealing visit to Hussein Park yesterday. I say revealing because you have doubtlessly watched many a show on survival and “survival skills,” and yesterday I got to test just how much attention I was paying to these shows.

To make a long story short, I left family to take pictures. I did not take my cell phone with me and, an hour later, I found out that family had deserted their previous location and were nowhere to be seen. Family, on the other hand, had assumed that I had my cell phone with me and that I was a ring away ( in that light, family never knew I was lost ). I, however, imagined that family must be looking for me and that we are going in circles with both ends on the move.

Remembering what my father had told me some days ago ( for no obvious reason he said: “When you’re lost, do not move about”), I returned to family’s ex-location and waited. Of course, family were not even looking for me ( I think this will scar me forever). I waited, and waited, and waited.

I got bored eventually, and walked to the highest point in the park so that I can get a general view of the park and its visitors. Twenty minutes later, I spotted family and I hurried down to reassure them that I am OK. Family were surprised to know ( right at that moment ) that my phone was with them the whole time. So much for my version of Survivor.

That off my chest, onward to the pictures:

Passage

Wood and Pillars

Arabesque Facade

Entrance

Wood and Stone

Normal, but oh not too normal

B&W

Take a Look

Edifice

Another view of Hussein Park

Sculptures

Hussein Park

Dancer Sculpture

Sculptures

Sculpture

Musician

Pillars

Bench

Mosaic

Let's Sit for a While

Theeban ذيبان

In V for Video on February 17, 2007 at 11:49 pm

This is a video I captured in Theeban, a small Jordanian town, en route to Karak in the South. This (now rather infamous) video is unedited, uncut, and very raw – just the way I like them.

The Arrangement of Things in WordPress

In Metablog on February 16, 2007 at 6:42 pm
Nerd Party - Toothpaste For Dinner

(Toothpaste For Dinner is the comic of Drew, husband of Natalie Dee, whose comics I love)

This day just cannot possibly be more, umm, challenging. Between WordPress and YouTube, I had myself completely confounded. Around three weeks ago I was going through the options and whatnot in WordPress and out of curiosity enabled the Visual Rich Text Editor. That is the reason why some of my posts since that moment of doom featured weird-looking and utterly undesirable fonts.

Ever since then, I have been trying to disable the Visual Rich Text Editor — obviously to no avail. I normally assumed all along that the option exists under Options >> Writing, because it has everything to do with writing. Makes sense, doesn’t it? This evening, equally frustrated once again, I went through the Options under the Writing tab (for the 100th time) and read:

Formatting: Users should use the visual rich editor by default

The option was unchecked, which drove me even closer to pazzia than ever. But fear not, this story has an ending for all who wander are not lost. I looked under Users >> Your Profile and voila! there was my holy grail right under About Yourself! This is how the culprit looks like:

Personal Options: Use the visual rich editor when writing

Now, being your average (such a demeaning word, I resent it) user, I have been looking for this one sentence for three weeks. I have suffered, my blog has suffered, and my readers have suffered as well (cue: three revealing posts in one day). Could ye who speaketh in ones and zeroes explain why this option is located under Users >> Your Profile and not under Options >> Writing ?

Injured Havana Brown

In Personal on February 16, 2007 at 3:40 pm

Now I am very upset and it’s not because of YouTube. Something to do with Havana Brown. I really should have bought a punch bag.

punch bag

Double bleh.

Frustrated with YouTube

In Personal on February 16, 2007 at 1:39 pm

Perhaps I should not still be listening to James Blunt. Three hours of the same song are enough to bring bad luck to anyone. YouTube is frustrating the living hell out of me at this point in time, and I am irritated.

I won’t throw a BF, I reserve those for my close circle of friends and family. I wanted to embed a video I had uploaded and to share it with you, but it seems that this will not happen today. There must be something wrong with the code YouTube generated because as far as I can tell, I am doing it all by the book.

Bleh.

Quoting Charles Baudelaire on Fashion

In Quoting on February 15, 2007 at 9:39 pm

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All fashions are charming, or rather relatively charming, each one being a new striving, more or less well conceived, after beauty, an approximate statement of an ideal, the desire for which constantly teases the unsatisfied human mind.

- Charles Baudelaire

The God Gene

In Salon on February 14, 2007 at 1:06 pm

Do you believe that people seek to believe in a Higher Power (or powers) because this power really exists, or is it because people need to believe so they simply follow that instinctive need for The Divine that’s embedded in them?

For as long as I can remember, I have been fascinated with the issue of religion and spirituality, and have been very fond of science as well. Mix those elements together, do a little research on each, engage in discussions with people of different faiths and those without, and you will get soul-searching chaos Tololy-style.

I first heard about the theory behind the God gene from my sister, and that was years ago. Today, I finally decided to blog about it because I want to communicate it to people who may not have heard about it. Basically, as the question in the first passage of this post asks, the quest for a Deity (or more) just might have something to do with genetic predisposition. Read this article from TIME, dating back to October 2004, and titled Is God in Our Genes? , or you could read the following excerpts:

Which came first, God or the need for God? In other words, did humans create religion from cues sent from above, or did evolution instill in us a sense of the divine so that we would gather into the communities essential to keeping the species going?

. . .

Chief of gene structure at the National Cancer Institute, [Dean] Hamer not only claims that human spirituality is an adaptive trait, but he also says he has located one of the genes responsible, a gene that just happens to also code for production of the neurotransmitters that regulate our moods. Our most profound feelings of spirituality, according to a literal reading of Hamer’s work, may be due to little more than an occasional shot of intoxicating brain chemicals governed by our DNA. “I’m a believer that every thought we think and every feeling we feel is the result of activity in the brain,” Hamer says.

. . .

Hamer also stresses that while he may have located a genetic root for spirituality, that is not the same as a genetic root for religion.

Spirituality is a feeling or a state of mind; religion is the way that state gets codified into law. Our genes don’t get directly involved in writing legislation. As Hamer puts it, perhaps understating a bit the emotional connection many have to their religions, “Spirituality is intensely personal; religion is institutional.”

. . .

What do you think?

معاً لاستعادة السلطنة العثمانية

In Bits & pieces on February 13, 2007 at 12:10 pm

يكتب نبيه برجي للمحرر العربي مقالاً بعنوان يطالبون بعودة السلطنة العثمانية: ماذا يفعل الزلزال الأيديولوجي بالشرق الأوسط يقول فيه   

ذات يوم، قال لنا الإمام الراحل محمد مهدي شمس الدين إن أكبر نكبة حلت بالعرب في القرن العشرين هي سقوط السلطنة العثمانية!. أن يصدر كلام عن مرجعية دينية وفكرية بذلك الحجم، فهذا يعكس مدى التراجيديا العربية التي تجاوزت كل الحدود. والطريف، بل والمخجل، أن هناك عرباً ما زالوا ينددون، حتى الآن، باتفاقية سايكس – بيكو أو يتوجسون من مفهوم البلقنة، مع أن العرب الذين انبعثت فيهم الغرائزية القبلية بتجلياتها الإتنية والمذهبية، ذهبوا إلى أبعد بكثير من البلقنة، وراحوا يدمرون البلد الواحد الذي أنتجه مارك سايكس وجورج بيكو قبل أن تضع الحرب العالمية الأولى أوزارها. كان هناك في الأستانة سلطان يدعى عبد الحميد الثاني رفض، بشدة، عرضاً من مؤسس الحركة الصهيونية تيودور هرتزل بتسديد كل ديون السلطنة في مقابل إعطاء وطن قومي لليهود في فلسطين، حتى أن هرتزل فكر بتفجير قصر يلدز بزوارق مفخخة للقضاء على السلطان  

 و يضيف

عرب آخرون تمنوا لو يظهر أتاتورك عربي يتولى غسل العقل العربي من «رقصة الدراويش»، ومن التقاليد، والمظاهر، البالية، بعدما كانت اليابان، وحيث التقاليد أكثر رسوخاً، قد أخذت بثورة الميجي (1867)، فيما الأوروبيون أوقفوا سيطرة الكنيسة التي أحرقت غاليليه لأنه قال بكروية الأرض، على المؤسسة السياسية، لكي لا يبقى صاحب الجلالة ظل الله على الأرض، ورغم أن العديد من الدول استخدم صليب قسطنطين الأكبر (الإله الكلي القدرة لا الإله الكلي المحبة) بتشكيلاته المختلفة، رمزاً لها. لكن رقصة الدراويش ما زالت مستمرة. وثمة عرب يفكرون الآن بتوقيع عريضة إلى اسطنبول للمطالبة بعودة السلطنة. والطريف أن هناك ساسة ومعلقين صحافيين بارزين يدعون، علناً، إلى تدخل تركي في المنطقة، من أجل تأمين التوازن مع التدخل الإيراني. وغداً قد يطالبون بتدخل أريتري لتأمين التوازن مع التدخل الأثيوبي، ومن دون أن يخطر في بال أحد طرح ذلك السؤال البديهي: لماذا أدمغة، وجيوب، وأرواح، وغرف نوم العرب مشرعة إلى هذا الحد؟

Women Leaders: Harvard’s New President

In Wonder Woman on February 12, 2007 at 2:49 pm

When will a Jordanian university have a woman as president? Hopefully the wish is not far fetched, and hopefully the position will not appoint a “token female” merely to ward off allegations of discrimination. Here’s a big NO to the defeatist attitudes of people who claim women cannot lead — disregarding the feeble religious, social, and personal motives behind their allegations.
The New York Times’ Drew Gilpin Faust: Coming of Age in a Changed World by Sara Rimer covers the story of Dr. Drew Faust and her ascension to her current position as president of Harvard University:

Recalling her coming of age as the only girl in a privileged, tradition-bound family in Virginia horse country, Drew Gilpin Faust, 59, has often spoken of her “continued confrontations” with her mother “about the requirements of what she usually called femininity.” Her mother, Catharine, she has said, told her repeatedly, “It’s a man’s world, sweetie, and the sooner you learn that the better off you’ll be.”

Interestingly, Dr.Faust succeeded Lawrecne H. Summers, who dug himself a hole when he said that innate differences between men and women might be one reason fewer women succeed in science and math careers.

You Will Blog About This

In Metablog on February 12, 2007 at 2:07 pm

Source: Natalie Dee (http://www.nataliedee.com/062806/fortune-cookie.jpg)

Hannibal Rising: Prelude to Genius

In Love on February 11, 2007 at 1:04 pm

Not to break off the arguably-sickening chain of posts in category Love, I have to devote a second one to Hannibal. The first one, “Is this Clarice? Why, hello Clarice,” can be accessed by clicking on the title.

Hello to you, reader.

Now for some cinematic initiation, Wikipedia says:

Hannibal Rising (2007) is the fifth film about Dr. Hannibal Lecter. A prequel to Red Dragon, The Silence of the Lambs, and Hannibal, it is an adaptation of Thomas Harris’ 2006 novel of the same name and will tell the story of how Hannibal becomes the infamous serial killer of the previous films and books. (Link to Hannibal Rising Wiki)

I was brought to light on the existence of the movie by pure luck, or by the usual diabolique scheming of The Fates, while  browsing Slate. The critique of the movie was anything but kind, here’s a link to Dana Stevens’ Eurotrash Schoolboy: The Young Lecter in Hannibal Rising, and then some:

The movie is trudgingly tedious—if you’re in it for the violence, be advised that each action scene is separated from the next by at least 20 minutes of macabre vamping. Above all, the movie is shameless. It doesn’t hesitate to avail itself of whatever historical boogeyman it needs to advance the plot, whether it’s Klaus Barbie’s exportation of French children to Auschwitz or the loss of one’s entire family in Hiroshima.

Stevens is entitled to her own opinion until I formulate my own. For the time being, I am excited beyond repair merely knowing that there exists a story frame for Hannibal as a young person. I cannot wait to watch the movie, and when I do, be promised that you shall read about the experience. Another post labeled Love will come your way — Yes.

To get appropriately inspired for the movie itself, do visit the official page at HannibalRising.com. The site offers information on the movie, which is directed by Peter Webber, and even lets you send Hannibal Rising e-cards.

Oh, the movie was released on Friday, February 9th, 2007.

The Visuals Are Back!

In Bits & pieces on February 9, 2007 at 12:30 pm

This is to announce that I, single handedly, managed to configure and activate the plugin that operates The Visuals section of this blog. Now you can view all my Flickr photos simply by clicking on The Visuals and choosing an album to browse.

This is sensational! Do you remember when I ruined The Visuals and had my Tololy’s techie gibberish protest? I confessed back then that

I ruined my “The Visuals” section while trying to fix it, which just proves how very un-techie I am. You can either check my flickr for recent pictures, or fix my Visuals.

Easy, tiger. Well now I am just super pleased to share this news with you, I did it on my own. Yippee.

Good Eating: Pictures of Food

In Picturesque on February 8, 2007 at 10:58 pm

The only thing I love more than a good movie is a good meal. Given the fact that I do not consume large quantities of food (or even normal quantities, some rumours sustain), I am very picky when it comes to what I do eat and I enjoy good eating beyond description. For an (otherwise useless) in-depth analysis of my eating habits, please refer to Of Hunger and Other Demons.

Since I absolutely worship yummy foods and taking pictures of them, this post has pictures of the foods I had during the past two days. Without further ado, I invite you all to indulge yourselves, feast your eyes, and drool if nobody is watching:

My Latest Ordeal

In Personal on February 7, 2007 at 11:14 pm

Of course, my life being the drama that it is, I have “adventures,” or episodes if you like, quite frequently. As a matter of fact, I cannot think of one day during my entire life that I have not lived some sort of twisted incarnation of a soap opera.

Unfortunately (for you, curious eyes), my latest ordeal was nothing too uncommon. I have been ill for the past two days and it has been a trying time. However, and at the risk of sounding like a masochist supreme, I confess that I enjoy being ill from time to time. I said it in an earlier post-morbus entry on December 28th, 2005 (The Love You Make):

Illness provides one with an invaluable chance to reflect on matters. It gave her [Tololy] a minute of alleged wisdom, a gift it is being able to value health, and not giving mundane affairs more weight than they deserve.

Today at the office the pain was so severe that I was mentally transplanted in my bed, receiving mother’s attention and contemplating the End of Time. By that I mean that I was not fully aware that I am in the office — I think my mind created an alternative, better-suited scenario for my situation to deflect my attention from my affliction (say that aloud five times fast, I dare you).

Games aside, it seems my situation is improving. Maybe my mind is again playing the illusionist, but whatever is happening feels better than an overheated face, a burning nose, a scratchy throat, and an aching body. I say welcome, health!

Random Act of Kindness

In Life on February 4, 2007 at 11:57 pm

I helped someone today. I feel like a better person. When was the last time you helped a stranger?

Constitutional Amendments: The 15th Amendment and Jordanian Women

In Jordan, Wonder Woman on February 3, 2007 at 10:13 pm

On February 3rd, 1870, the fifteenth amendment to the United States constitution was ratified. This amendment was part of several others that saw the light after the Civil War ended. In a nutshell, it gave former slaves the right to vote and dictated that neither states nor the federal government can use citizens’ race, color, or former state of servitude to prohibit them from practicing their right to vote. Here is the exact text of the amendment:

Section 1: The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of race, color, or previous condition of servitude.

Section 2: The Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

Now although the fifteenth amendment was not respected in many states after its immediate implementation and although the South continued to discriminate against people of color and might have even gotten more creative/violent doing so, it (the fifteenth amendment) did pave the way for future quests for equality on the part of African-Americans.

At that, how often do Arab constitutions get amended? And perhaps more important is the question of whether they get amended in positive, socially progressive ways (when they do get tweaked, that is) or in more restrictive, totalitarian democracy-wraps.

In an interesting little research I did tonight, I found out that the Jordanian Constitution says, in Chapter Two- Article 6 (ii) , that “the Government shall ensure work and education within the limits of its possibilities, and it shall ensure a state of tranquillity and equal opportunities to all Jordanians.

However, after I inspected the Jordanian Labor Law, I found that women are not given equal rights as men in the workplace or even in their choice of a profession. Here’s what the Labor Law says in Article 69, conveniently titled “The Limits Applied to the Hiring of the Woman“:

The following shall be set pursuant to a resolution to be made by the Minister after inquiring about the opinion of the competent official parties:
A- The industries and works for which women may not be hired.
B- Times at which women may not be caused to be working and the cases excluded from the same.

In effect, then, the government has decidedly phrased the labor law in a way that explicitly contradicts the constitution. Moreover, it has been so unabashed in labelling women as unequal to men in competence and merit by titling and detailing Article 69 as seen above.

To step back to a previous point I mentioned, I do not think the Jordanian Constitution needs to be amended in this instance. It is the ambivalent sexist Labor Law that grants women the right to work but only in some professions as deemed appropriate by a patriarchal society, and is unashamed to put limitations restricting women’s potential blatantly, in an article of their own.

A fitting question may now be placed on the competence of the men who phrased this law, and on the readiness of the men that today dominate the political scene in Jordan to take steps to amend it. In a highly tribal and predominantly male parliament, I doubt much hope can be placed on progressive change.

My bet would be placed on more investigation to be done by activists and intellectuals, anyone interested in social progress really, on issues of gender and discrimination against women in Jordanian law and culture. I for one had no idea that the Constitution and the Labor Law contradict in such a way, and I had no clue that the Labor Law is as backwardly sexist as it turned out to be.

If Jordanian women are equated to former slaves in the United States (and Jordanian women are indeed enslaved in more ways than one at present), and their right to pursue a profession they see fit as the right of former slaves to vote – then what we have is a parable that we just might learn from.

The fifteenth amendment only had temporary immediate effects on the situation of former slaves. Local “voting qualification” laws were enforced in the South to swivel around it and to prevent Black voters from practicing their constitutional rights.

Our own Labor Law is very similar to these laws. It prevents Jordanian women from practicing their constitutional right to “equal opportunities.” The only difference being that the Southern local laws oppressing African-Americans date back to the 1890’s, while our Labor Law is still practiced in 2007.

Dismay aside, there are several ways to challenge Article 69 of the Labor Law. Awareness among women has to be emphasized. As I mentioned above, I only found out about this naked contradiction and scandalous legal sexism tonight – by pure chance. I doubt most Jordanian women, working women specifically, know about it.

Awareness may be a positive step towards change, but it is not enough. As positive as it is, it is not aggressive to a degree as to achieve anything on its own. A stronger presence for women empowerment societies and associations has to become reality. Social activists, women and men, must take action to see an end to legal discrimination against women in Jordan.

On a final note, thorough review of the Jordanian laws and legal framework has to be administered by a non-sexist government. Consider the phrasing of Article 6 (i) of the Jordanian Constitution: “Jordanians shall be equal before the law. There shall be no discrimination between them as regards to their rights and duties on grounds of race, language or religion.”

How about adding the word “gender” just so we make sure 50% of the population is not left out?

What’s in an SMS?

In T Play Box on February 1, 2007 at 10:33 am

Hardly moments ago, I was corresponding with a friend of mine through SMS — which is by far my favorite means of communication. I really enjoy the challenge of using up the meager 125 characters to the maximum, with style and character-reflective creativity.

And no, I am not overdoing it. I seriously see each SMS in that light. It is like a test to my communication and language abilities, and I never write “U” instead of “you.” I write proper and I preserve my character (one that doesn’t use ^_^ or says wsup).

“I am great but lazy around the edges… I don’t have stuff of the nature you speak of. Just now someone remarked that my phone rings a lot.”

And that was my inspirational post for the day…