On Honor Crimes in Jordan, Again

I realize that I have been lending the issue of honor crimes in Jordan a lot of attention lately, but that is still not enough.

I remember when I wrote the post Honor Is Another Word for Vagina, some people found it repulsive of me to link such a noble concept as honor to female anatomy. They said I was a cultural renegade, and that I was self-hating and deliberately out to maim a fundamental aspect of Arab, and Jordanian, culture. I was slightly annoyed, but I could not find a counterargument that dismissed my point that, yes, “what Arab men term as “honor” is a polite word for the Arabically-explicit word vagina.” Here were my points in that post:

The other part is a woman, an anatomically different human being who is almost always the honor-defaming culprit in any scandal. The woman’s private parts play a vital role in condemning her because they are, in the traditional male chauvinist view, the forbidden yet deeply desired apple.

To illustrate this, think of the worst possible curse words out there in Arabic and in English. About 99% of them involve someone’s mother, someone’s sister, and their genitalia. They might also include explicit references to sexual acts done to these private parts. In Arabic, these curse words are intended to verbally harm the opposite person’s “honor,” a sacred concept referring simply to a woman’s vagina.

Within this context, when someone commits an “honor killing” to wash away the family’s shame, all they are doing is killing the target woman’s vagina who may or may not have engaged in sexual acts deemed socially taboo. By the same token, when a man swears by his “sister’s honor,” he is swearing by her vagina. Fascinating, isn’t it?

The final point I want to make is this: men do not really have honor to swear by or to protect. Anatomically speaking, it is the women that live with these men that do have honor and sometimes pay a dear price for having it.

Well, what do you know. I found in Al Ghad a citation from a research paper done by Dr.Hani Jahshan defining masculinity and honor as follows:

الذكورة لدى القاتل هو “أن على الرجل أن يحمي، يراقب، ويدافع عن كافة أنواع عذرية المرأة قريبته، ويفسر هذا أنه في صالح المرأة، فإذا لم يقم الرجل بذلك يكون قد أخل بصورته كرجل أمام المجتمع، فيتخذ أنماطا سلوكية لمنع المرأة من انتهاك حدود كافة أنواع العذرية المفروضة عليها، بما فيها السلوكية والاجتماعية، بواسطة العنف الجسدي أو الحبس داخل جدران المنزل أو الرقابة الدائمة أو التخويف بالسمعة السيئة، مما يشكل بحد ذاته نوعا من أنواع العنف والتمييز ضد المرأة”.

He defines masculinity as the male’s duty to protect, monitor, and defend all types of female virginity (not just her tangible virginity, but also her moral and social virginity — not interacting with men,etc.). So I was right then, honor really is centered around the vagina, and guess what, like I argued before, men don’t have it. Something about this makes me smile.