Tololy's Box

Well, you spelled the truth. I don’t think that people should try to understand each others, I mean couples. Cause I honestly believe that no matter how couples try to understand each other. It’ll be a waste of time and they’ll be shocked later to realize they don’t know much about each other, no matter how hard they try to. i personally hate anyone who seems much interested in understanding me, and I don’t care to understand them too, if we’re compatible enough to stay together, it’ll show up. As simply as that

Those are good observations, T. And I think you’re attitude is healthy… some people who come to these realizations lose the ability to trust, and that leads to unhappiness. It’s healthier trust people and risk getting hurt than it is to lead a lonely existence because you are afraid of feeling betrayed. Easier said than done, though

One exclusion I would make, though, is that people in a long term relationship (talking about marriage here, really) often do come to know the the real person their partner is. A good marriage is when both people accept the other “as is”, anyway. That’s pretty much the make-or-break point in marriage, in my opinion.

Also… I would offer the observation that no two people are the same on this one! For whatever reason, some people go to great lengths to “put themselves out there” and not hide anything. Others are the opposite, and show nothing except what they want people to see. Most of us are somewhere in between.

I’m going to go fruity on you here.
It’s like looking at a diamond depending on where you are at you will see a different hue of it, it’s not not the entire picture but it’s part of it non the less. Not everyone needs to see the same person in front of them, depending on what you know you might see a different person and deal with them differently hence people try to bar information from being too cheap and they create those characters that are not quite themselves. I don’t feel its dishonest its just a response to shield your self from being hurt.
If we are speaking about long term relationships then you better know that person well, atleast over time. It’s invaluable to have an idea of whats going on in your significant other’s head. Not being able to guess correctly may mean losing the opportunity to capitalize on happy moods and not averting conflict on those blue days.

I agree with what you say about double lives and double sides of people..look at your virtual life,you’re intelligent,interesting and smart with super vocabulary from the thesaurus,yet I would bet that in rl you are another standard Amman chick,who “appears” boring and can’t bring out %1 of your potentials in here..
me?what about me! No no don’t go there,we’re discussing you the blog owner,not me..keep my double life thing outta this

hmmm but you are not talking about rl and virtual lives are you,or is it all related?
ok back to topic,I do not agree with how you handle the double sides of people, you don’t want to know the real complete/all sides of someone and same applies to you? fine..then how can you trust being with someone, or investing time and emotions and trust and dedication? based on what?
you try to appear as if you are careless with no great expectations of anything from anyone,it is a good defense mechanism I’ll give you that…but without the risk of getting to fully know someone you will stay forever safe,but Lonely!

I’ve been wanting to say this for a while, what stopped me is inflicting pain(or some sentiment close to that)upon someone who is uber-sensitive(and I don’t mean that in a bad way, you are sensitive and observant to your surroundings,a 3rd eye sensitivity sounds better!)
What I want to say to you is that you’re holding back, you have changed.Do NOT hold back, say it exactly as it appears in your head, no buffers, no filters.